At Girl Gamer Gathering, we are dedicated to creating a safe, inclusive, and fun environment for all gamers to play together. Remember, GGG is about being supportive and encouraging of every gamer and member. This code of conduct is to ensure a safe environment for our attendees and volunteers.
Harassment is not acceptable at any time and can result in anything from a warning to being banned from the convention, depending on the severity and frequency of the incidents.
The following examples of harassment are intended to be guidelines and are not exclusive when determining whether there has been a violation of this policy:
- Verbal harassment includes comments that are offensive or unwelcome regarding a person’s nationality, origin, race, class, religion, gender, gender expression, sexual orientation, age, physical or mental disability or appearance, including epithets, slurs, negative stereotyping, and deliberately misgendering someone.
- Physical harassment includes unwanted and inappropriate physical contact or horseplay, including touching, pinching, pushing, grabbing, unnecessary brushing against someone, invading personal space, cornering someone or blocking their path and physical or sexual assault.
- Sexual harassment includes unwelcome sexual advances or suggestive behavior, stalking or persecuting a person with unwanted attentions, gifts, or messages, continued suggestions for dating, romance, or social activity after it has been made clear that the suggestions are unwelcome, offensive or intimidating comments or gestures, or insensitive jokes or pranks that undermine the dignity of the person.
When in doubt, if you think that what you did wasn’t harassment, but someone else says you made them feel uncomfortable or unsafe, you might have harassed them! All individuals involved have the option to seek a mediator to assist in reviewing and resolving the situation. If someone tells you to back off, please respect their wishes.
The core principle is that attendees and staff must treat others with dignity and respect and should, themselves, be treated with dignity and respect. Attendees and staff should always consider whether their words or conduct could be offensive.
Privilege simply means that a person has been given a benefit in some way based on who they are, that other people who aren’t like them aren’t given. We are all privileged in some way along certain axes, and lack privilege along other axes. Possessing privilege in one area doesn’t make you a bad person, but it does have a tendency to prevent you from noticing the needs and feelings of those who lack that same privilege. This can lead to inadvertently hurting someone without meaning to, and that’s not fun for anyone.
When talking about privilege, sometimes, you may feel you’re being attacked, but please keep in mind that what’s really happening is probably that you’re having your privilege pointed out. This can be very uncomfortable if you’ve never had to confront it before, but it’s important to see things from more than just your own perspective.
To be an ally, demonstrate it with your actions by educating yourself on issues you’re not familiar with, and respectfully listening when you are out of your depth and helping to amplify their voices. It’s not your fault you were born with a certain privilege, but it is your decision what to do with it.
GGG has adopted a set of guidelines to make it easier for us to enjoy the con together:
- If two or more people come into conflict and the disagreement can’t be resolved easily — within five minutes or so — the people involved should either disengage as soon as possible or disengage long enough to seek out a mediator to help facilitate understanding.
- If you are not sure if a certain action can be considered as harassment, then you should not continue with that course of action.
- When talking with people about their life experiences, acknowledge that they have had different experiences than you. In other words, acknowledge that other people might have problems you don’t have, simply by virtue of being who they are.
- Please listen when our panelists & guests talk about their experiences and be respectful even if you don’t understand what they’re talking about in comparison to your experience.
If you’re unfamiliar with any of the above terminology, or feel like you need further explanation, here are some links:
- California law on harassment.
- GSA Network: What Every Super-Rad Straight Ally Should Know.
This refers specifically to being a straight ally for the LGBT community, but the general principles apply in many different situations:
- What Is a ‘system of privilege’? Extra explanation of systems of privilege with some real-life examples. This mostly deals with race but, again, it can apply across the board.
- Gay Alliance: SafeZone Programs. On creating safe spaces for LGBT people, principles can be applied across the board.